Am I Going to Miss Out On Much If I Choose to Never Date and Be A Virgin For Life?
I studied philosophy and sociology intensively in college. During discussions about romance, sex, sexuality, sexual health, and romantic love I never really understood or was able to relate to the class because I have never dated, had sex, or was ever able to relate to girls. My mother never wanted me to be around girls anyways saying that they are "hazards in disguise." I’m a 23 year old male virgin. I learned that men who have never had dated or had sex are at risk for serious heart disease and cut their life short by about 15 years.
Am I really missing out on a lot if I never date or have sex in my life? I guess I find sex and a girls body to be kind of scary. I never had any friends that were girls either – I was always friends with guys – and no, I’m not gay, religious, or asexual.
I simply want to know, in your opinion, if I’m really going to miss much in life if I never date, marry, or have sex. I’m planning to live in an remote part of Alaska.
I was just curious
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Hon, you being 5"5 is nothing to be ashamed of. I’ve seen guys shorter than you who have been able to get beautiful girlfriends/wives.
To answer your question, yes I personally think you’re missing out on one very important and amazing aspect of life if you never date or have sex. It’s up to you, though.
no, you have not missed out on much. sex is a very beautiful and extremely pleasurable thing, but is is supposed to be for marriage. those who do it outside of marriage end up either pregant, with sexual diseases, or emotional distress. however, if you never do it(in other words if you never get married) yeah, you are missing out on alot of pleasure. it is good that you have waited. but get married and have fun!!
Lets say you are curious about flying. You studied everything there is to know about flying…The theory…The forms of aircraft…etc. You will never know the feeling until plane lifts off the ground…Me, I love a chopper and I want the most insane pilot behind the stick….Life is a ride!
Yes you are missing out in life…So I suggest you go find a hooker and spend a little…That way you don’t have to worry about a thing……
I don’t think it is a choice. If a hot girl or guy came up to you and wanted to have sex, i doubt you would turn it down.
That depends.
If you have the (usual) sex drive hard wired into humans’ brains, then not dating or getting sex is likely to cause stress over the lifetime.
If you have a serious aversion to women and you are a normal heterosexual that might be even worse, stress-wise.
If, instead, you have a low or no sex drive then it’s not likely to cause you stress from the psychological causes, but the physiology of your reproductive system can cause you issues, and that’s part of the cause for elevated heart disease risk and other forms of pathophysiology including prostate cancer if those systems aren’t "used".
I guess, at the end, it’s a trade off for you on whether it’s worth the effort to try and overcome whatever you have to to enter the mating… er… DATING pool or to stay as you are.
Still, not to put too fine a point on it, it looks like your mom seriously tried to take herself out of the gene pool and kill any chance for grand kids. She also, through her actions, made women "hazards in disguise" for you.
EDIT:
Just read your profile.
First of all, I have seen several dwarves, men with flippers for arms, and generally ugly guys with women. Don’t sell yourself short… LITERALLY.
Besides, there are plenty of shorter women out there…
Second, the virginity thing…
Like I said, it’s up to you whether you want to "fix" that or not but it’s entirely possible…
…even more possible if you make decent money and/or are a caring guy.
Oh, and 23 is not old enough to view yourself as completely hopeless sexually… 83, maybe.
well i donot think ur going to miss something great in life life is a challenge well if ur so intrested in girlz and have sex why donot u tell ur om about it
Yes you will; I’m not suggesting you go to the other extreme-trying to score with every woman you see. But if you want to meet that special person who will-pardon the cliche’-complete you, you have to get out there and play the game-take a few chances, maybe get hurt some, but it will be worth it in the end. I love my wife, and we have great sex (we’re both in our 40′s) but I was scared to death the first time I asked her out; the first time I said "I love you"; the first time we made love. And that was only a few years ago. I wouldn’t trade what we have now for anything, and I don’t regret the failed relationships that led me here.