I am 18 years old and I need to learn to last longer in bed!?

2 comments

1. 

   Devin
   

   June 28, 2009

   One thing that helped me overcome this problem when I first started having sex was thinking about non-sexual things, and also Kegels exercises to help control your ejaculation. Practice makes perfect!

2. 

   Brian W
   

   June 28, 2009

   Hello Daniel,

   The fact is that whilst in school they tell us the very basic mechanics of sex, the certainly dont teach us to be good at it, add to that the fact that we are all conditioned by society that sex is something so dirty we cant talk about it not even to our sexual partners how are we supposed to know what they find sexually arousing or pleasureable?

   Let me try to give you a head start OK?

   Men and women arrive at orgasm in very different ways, a woman is like a long slow burner, she starts having sex about 6pm and you start at 11.30pm.

   Let me explain that, a lot of what makes a woman climax starts in her head, the anticipation of pleasures to come, if you combine that with erotic petting and foreplay her excitement builds to the point where she's half way there before penetration even begins.

   Unlike men, when the actual pysical stimulation stops, women do not imediatly begin to subside and that's the key, when you feel yourself starting to get there, stop for the count of three (or four, whatever it takes) and let your excitement subside, then start again, then stop again. This technique really works and has been the sorce of many multiple orgasms in its time.

   Remember too that for a woman foreplay really works (slow burner) stoke the flames of passion first by playing with some of the following erogenous zones;

   Lips

   A number one zone, packed with nerve endings and full of suggestiveness, the lips are just as important as other areas.

   Try teasing small kisses that barely part your lips as well as long, lingering passionate snogs.

   Clitoris

   The highest concentration of nerve endings in the body.

   Experiment above and below the hood with plenty of lubrication.

   Vagina

   This is particularly sensitive on the front wall (tummy side) where the hidden depths of the clitoris can be stimulated – but don't miss the famous G-spot either.

   Breasts

   Men love touching women's breasts, and luckily for us we love it too!

   The sensitivity of the breasts varies hugely with hormonal fluctuations so always check what kind of touch your partner enjoys and follow their guide.

   Nipples

   Stroke them, tweak them, lick them – nipples are a very sensitive area of the body and the perfect place to start when getting her in the mood.

   Be careful though, nipples are affected by hormones so start slowly and work out what she likes.

   Throat/Neck

   Gently kiss her throat, and lift her hair to caress the back of her neck.

   The skin is particularly receptive to touch in these areas and this kind of loving attention feels especially intimate.

   Belly button

   This is more sensitive than you might imagine. Circle an innie and rub the base of an outie, either one will send vibrations direct to the genitals.

   Hips

   Use a light touch with the whole of your hand to firmly stroke and cup the hips – it will make her feel really feminine.

   Inner Thighs

   The key here is to always move in an upward direction, getting teasingly closer to her hotspots to build her anticipatory arousal.

   Wrists and palms

   The skin on the wrists and palms is really sensitive. Try rubbing in a light circular motion on the palm of the hand. Encourage her to open her hands to receive your touch.

   Armpits

   To know that your whole body is loved and cared for is what every woman wants and what better way to prove that than pampering her pits? Go very gently and softly, and she'll feel tingly all over.

   So there you have it, remember the foreplay and take your time.

   Good luck and healthy regards, you budding Cassanova!
   Brian.