How do I discuss my wife's loose vagina?
I hate to bring this up, because I love my wife and appreciate every thing she has done.
But after several children, my wife’s vagina has become extremely loose. I don’t enjoy sex anymore. Not for lack of trying but simply because there is so little sensation. My penis is of average size, and I used to really enjoy our sex life. But in recent years it is getting harder and harder to accept. Our youngest child is five years old, so this has been going on for a while.
I don’t know if she has tried Kegels or not. I know the Doctors were always talking about them, so she at least knows about them.
I would like to find a solution. Like I said, for all I know she is doing Kegels for two hours a day with no results, so I don’t just want to suggest that. I have seen information regarding vaginal tightening surgery. I don’t know if that is a good option or not.
We have a generally good relationship, but I am scared to death to bring this up because I don’t want to humiliate her. Any ideas?
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Well you have to talk to her about it! Vaginal rejuvenation is an option. Let her know its not her fault because it isn’t it happens sometimes after lots of kids. You can’t go on ignoring the situation though.
try using the back door… lube it up, and ease it in… oh,oh,, not too fast,,,, or that door will shut and never open again…
Well first of all, I wouldn’t TALK to her about it at all. That would probably be really offensive to her…at least I know that I’d get offended. After you punch out a couple of kids, I mean, what do you expect!?! That thing is definitely not going to be tight anymore. Say "Hey, I found this new thing called —- and it’s supposed to make our sex life even better!" She might go for it then. That way, she will probably be interested and not get offended.
Good luck!
You will have to bring it up, but in the nicest possible way. There are other options besides surgery. There are vaginal cones for example and Cleo do a vaginal exercise thing – like a vibrator but it tones the muscles inside. Google and see what you can find out.
If I were your wife I would much prefer you to bring the matter up honestly, than not. So be brave and go for it. and Good Luck!
try anal plugs, using a vibrator… i also heard about a guy wrapping his penis with beads and having sex that way….have you tried a sex therapist they might have some good options
Um, there’s always oral sex
Talk to her man! Tell her how you feel. She’ll never know unless you say something. She can’t read minds.
I would suggest you do some resarch before confronting her. I say that, simply because this is not something that she has control over. It’s not her fault. You are right to worry that she might be humiliated. DO some research or talk to an OBGYN.
If you really had a "good relationship" then you could talk about anything, including how to make sex better for both of you. If she’s so loose you’re not satisfied, it’s also unlikely that she’s getting much sensation vaginally either.
Discuss it…don’t criticize or humiliate, but bring up the issue of tightness. Ask her if she can feel you inside her like she did when you first began having sex…go at the discussion from her point of view and work from there.
Don’t assume that just because she knows about kegels, that she’s been doing them. A lot of women don’t do them and don’t realize how appreciative their partner would be if they did!
Find a way to discuss this, or learn to live with a low-friction sex life.
just tell her. you might want to leave out the part where you dont enjoy it anymore, especially since its been FIVE years, thats kind of deceptive and will make her feel like she has been living a lie for the last 5 years. just tell her to consider the vaginal tightening surgery. approach the subject delicately, be honest, but not cruel honest. stress that it is not her fault, very important that you make her see that. and best of luck to you.
good luck on that one.. that would be like her telling you to get it enlarged..one thing you could try is this.. tell her a friend from work was talking about his brother and his wife .. tell her they have lets say 5 kids.. and they went and did that and they both like it and see what she says.. kinda go from there.. you could also say that after so many children that she could not feel her husband any more.. and if things are looking good from that converstation.. ask her if it feels the same as it did years ago.. i will just bet it dont..
If you have been married for along time and have several children you should just be able to say it. do it in a sensitive way and don’t make it her fault. Remember that you helped stretch that baby out.
you need to bring it up. just tell her, that her lady parts are too loose, and you are not feeling anything. you are close enough to her to bring it up, you had children with her. tell her soon, or you will grow bitter because you are not physically satisfied.
mention kegels again, and that operations, well that is a crap shoot, either works or not or leads to other complications. or speak to OB/GYN on options on how you can approach your wife with this delicate situation.
Oh goodness,that is a tough question.I think either way you bring it up she is going to feel insulted.Honestly, I really wouldn’t know how to say it to her other than just tell it like it is.I’m sorry I couldn’t be of any help but I think i’m leaving this one alone.Maybe one of the guys on here has been through the same thing,they will probaly be able to tell you better.
I feel for you – this is going to be a very hard discussion. The last thing you want to do it have your wife think she’s not good anymore. If you are not having the sensation, then she probably isn’t either. Be honest and let her know that you do not get the same physical feeling that you use to and ask her if she does. I’m sure she wants you have a great time. Try to focus the conversion on her and how she feels. Hopefully, she’ll say she doesn’t have the same sensation and will mention going to the dr. to discuss it. If not, when speaking to her stay calm and she may offer to go to the dr. Be supportive regaudless.
very rude. if you have a good relationship you should be abel to talk to her about.
Women are verbal processers. They love opening up and sharing and crap. She’ll love you if you discuss it with her and not judge her.
talk to her, you canot go on ignoring this situation
I’m sure you’re not alone with this type of situation. More guys are going through this that don’t want to admit it. I applaud you for speaking out.
On the other hand you have a serious situation going on in the bedroom. I mean, how do you start this conversation with your lover? No girl wants to hear that her vagina is really loose. It would be the same thing as telling a guy his penis is really small. I’m sure she kinda already knows. I mean when you guys are intimate with each other she has to feel that she isn’t gripping you or making herself tight around your penis. When she tries it will be hard for her to do. If she’s doing Kegels already and they’re not working there isn’t anything other then the surgery that can be done to fix this problem (But I could be wrong). Can you two afford the surgery? It would really suck if you brought up the surgery but then said you guys couldn’t afford it. Be prepared for the can of worms that you are opening when you talk to your wife about her situation. Best of luck!